Cinderella, the new real-life Disney film, has caused quite a stir with the now famous line, “Have courage and be kind.” And I have a bone to pick with that.
Did anyone else notice Cinderella DID NOT have courage and was “kind” in a VERY WRONG way? This film doesn’t teach little girls to be kind, it teaches girls to be abused by evil people and to lie about who you are.
Kindness isn’t getting stomped on, which, if you didn’t notice, is all Cinderella did. Yes, she was kind to the animals. She cared for them and fed them. But allowing her stepmother and stepsisters to abuse her and treat her like she was nothing more than the ashes she slept in is not kindness.
Kindness is loving people in spite of their flaws. It’s treating people like people. It’s being generous to the needy, affectionate to the hurting, and polite no matter the situation.
There wasn’t much kindness happening. Just a lot of getting trampled on.
More importantly and obviously, Cinderella was not courageous.
She allowed her stepmother to force her into slavery, starve her of food and shove her into the attic, a place where she was ignored unless she was needed. There is no courage in that.
Courage is standing up for yourself when you’re being wronged. Courage is standing up for others when they can’t stand of for themselves. It’s walking away when standing up isn’t enough. It’s holding your head high and giving yourself a chance.
Not even going to the ball was courageous. She went in disguise, she lied to everyone there about who she was. She misled the multitude with her princess-y outfit and never bothered to correct their opinion of her until she was guaranteed happiness.
Ladies, if you want to make kindness and courage your motto- please don’t try to live up to Cinderella’s example. She was neither of those.
Cinderella showed a single moment of kindness and courage. That moment was when she said to her stepmother at the end of the film, “I forgive you.”
Okay. I’ll stop ranting now.
What are your thoughts of Cinderella’s story? Do you think her actions showed kindness and/or courage?